“So wait, I don’t even get a say in this? Not cool.”
Congratulations, Santana. This is your coming out party. Attendance mandatory, and no, you don’t get to dictate the terms of what little control you have over the situation I unintentionally started but it’s not really my fault because someone else did it waaaaaay worse than I did and that excuses it, as evidenced by my lack of apology in the script.
And yes you have to come. Because I just saved you from the punishment you deserve, as articulated and confirmed by three adult authority figures. Aren’t I a swell guy? You should accept my hug and support, because I am your friend and ally. And you know this because the script makes it so. (Don’t worry, we’ll let your girlfriend hold your hand in the background, let you kiss behind someone’s head, and let you guys hug at the end of the episode). I just don’t want to see you get hurt, because then I will feel like shit because you were my first, and me dealing with my pain is more important to emphasize than telling your story from your POV.
One of the most upsetting things about this episode (which was almost 100% upsetting) was that Santana made a number of these protests throughout - unequivocally stating that Finn’s project was not what she wanted, that she was not okay with it, that Finn outing her was not okay, that it was making her life worse. And every time she was steamrolled, ignored, and told that her feelings were wrong.
Not one person told her she was right to be upset or sympathized with her at all. They made her feel like this was a natural, normal thing that any good friend would do. That all she needed was an attitude adjustment and she would see just how amazing and wise Finn really is.
By the end of the episode, they actually made her believe that shit.
How dare her, really, to think she had the right to come to terms with her sexuality, with HER life, on her own time and her own terms.
I KNOW THIS EPISODE WAS A LONG TIME AGO BUT I STILL HAVE ALL OF THE ABOVE FEELINGS ABOUT IT.